I wrote this in the sauna
Be Still.
Get Lost.
Speak Kindly.
The Path to Reclaiming Yourself.
For years, I avoided stillness.
I filled every second with something—working harder, saying yes when I wanted to say no, scrolling endlessly, eating when I wasn’t hungry, numbing out with a drink, over-exercising, overcommitting. Anything to keep moving, to avoid the quiet.
Because in the quiet? That’s where all the stuff I didn’t want to face lived. The doubt. The fear. The questions I didn’t have answers to. The knowing that something wasn’t quite right—but not knowing what to do about it.
So, I ran. And I see so many women doing the exact same thing.
what I’ve learned? stillness isn’t what breaks us. Avoiding it is.
Be Still: Stop Running From Yourself
Women are taught to do. To prove our worth through productivity, through how much we can hold, through how much we can give. Stillness? That’s not something we’ve been trained in. And when life gets chaotic—when the walls feel like they’re closing in—we double down. We keep moving.
But if you’re constantly running from yourself, how do you ever come home?
Stillness is where you meet yourself again. It’s where you get clear. It’s where you stop reacting to life and start deliberately creating it. It’s uncomfortable at first—because yes, the thoughts and emotions you’ve been suppressing will come to the surface. But they were always there. The difference is, now you get to actually deal with them instead of running.
Women who learn to be still stop making decisions from a place of stress and scarcity. They stop running on autopilot. They start choosing their life instead of just surviving it.
Get Lost: The Fear of Wanting More
There’s a reason so many women struggle to imagine something bigger for themselves.
Dreaming feels dangerous. It feels risky. Because what if you let yourself want something different—more ease, more joy, more fulfillment—and it means letting go of what you have now? What if it disrupts your relationships? What if people stop taking you seriously? What if it means losing control?
So instead of allowing themselves to want, they shut it down before it even begins. They convince themselves they’re fine. That they should just be grateful for what they have.
Understand this, if something in you is pulling for more, it’s because you’re meant for it.
The challenge is creating safety in expansion—learning how to trust yourself in the unknown, how to let go of what isn’t working without fear, how to explore the edges of your imagination without feeling like it will cost you everything.
Sometimes you have to lose yourself to find who you truly are.
Speak Kindly: The Voice That Shapes Your Life
If I talked to my friends the way I used to talk to myself, I wouldn’t have any left.
But that’s how so many women operate. We beat ourselves up for not being "further along." We silence our own ideas before they have a chance to grow. We downplay our needs, dismiss our emotions, push through even when everything in us is screaming for rest.
And then we wonder why we feel so disconnected.
Your inner voice is either building you up or tearing you down. There is no neutral.
Changing the way you speak to yourself isn’t just about being positive—it’s about reinforcing what’s actually true. That you’re allowed to slow down. That rest isn’t something you have to earn. That you don’t have to prove your worth through exhaustion. That you are already enough.
The Invitation: A New Way of Being
This is what I teach because this is what changed everything for me.
Be Still. Stop running. Meet yourself again.
Get Lost. Dream bigger. Let yourself want more.
Speak Kindly. Rebuild the relationship you have with yourself.
This is how you get back to you.
And once you do? Everything changes.
This is exactly what I help women do—through breathwork, somatic tools, and understanding their dominant stress responses. We work on creating safety in stillness, building healthy coping mechanisms, and rewiring the way you respond to stress so you’re no longer stuck in overdrive.
With accountability, support, and the right tools, you don’t just learn to slow down—you learn to thrive in it. If you’re curious where you might be resisting stillness in your own life, check out The Resistance Report to uncover what’s keeping you from the peace and clarity you’re craving.
Feeling the pull? Send me a message and we can start the conversation.
Breathe it in, Be Deliberate, please be good to yourself.
Chelsea
The Deliberate One
