Why You're Still Stuck (Even When You're Doing All the “Right” Things)
April 29, 2025
I was the woman doing all the wellness things … at least sometimes—
The workouts.
The meal prep.
The meditation apps.
The books.
The green juice.
The yoga.
Even tracking my food on Noom like a pro.
I wanted to look better, feel better, lose weight
And yet?
I was still pouring the wine with lunch.
Still grabbing a few beers after work.
Still feeling like something was… off.
Tired.
Anxious.
Foggy.
Stuck.
I couldn’t figure it out. I was trying.
I was doing the work.
So why didn’t I feel better?
Because I wouldnt see/feel a difference, I would give up and default to the same sedentary habits and eating patterns. all or nothing… and certainly no sustained effort.
The Wellness Loop No One Talks About
Now I see it everywhere.
Women showing up for themselves with so much heart.
They crave change. They crave peace.
And yet… they’re still drinking.
Which means to me that it’s not about willpower, or discipline, or trying harder.
It’s that there’s a disconnect.
One part of you is moving forward.
Another part of you is still reaching for what’s familiar.
I talk about this in the latest episode of The Deliberate Exchange Podcast (listen here)
If You’re Still Drinking While Healing and trying to be well… This Is for You.
Let’s call it what it is:
If you're doing all the health and healing things and still drinking?
You’re fighting an uphill battle.
And deep down… you probably already know that.
Not because you’re weak.
Not because you don’t care.
But because your nervous system still thinks alcohol = safety.
Why We Self-Sabotage Even When We Want Better
It sounds backwards, right? But our brains are wired for what’s familiar—not what’s better
If you’ve lived in chaos, shame, overdoing, or emotional suppression, then joy and peace can actually feel unsafe.
So we unconsciously reach for something—like alcohol—that brings us back to what we know.
The pattern becomes:
“I want to feel good… but not too good.”
So we numb.
We drink.
We sabotage.
Because somewhere deep down, there’s a belief that says:
“This is as good as it gets.”
Or worse—“I don’t know who I’d be without this.”
Alcohol Isn’t Helping You Cope—It’s Keeping You Stuck
Let me be perfectly clear:
Alcohol (in any amount) feels like regulation in the moment.
But it’s false safety.
It relaxes you—for a moment.
But it wrecks your sleep.
It numbs your stress—but disconnects you from your body.
It offers short-term relief—at the cost of long-term peace.
So even with the workouts and the breathwork and the journaling…
You still feel off.
Because you haven’t cleared the one thing that’s actively undoing your efforts.
What If You’re Not Broken—Just Dysregulated?
This is the part I want you to really hear:
There is nothing wrong with you.
You are not lazy.
You are not weak.
You are not broken.
You’re just dysregulated.
And alcohol might be the nervous system’s current way of coping.
But it’s also keeping your capacity small.
What Changed When I Stopped Drinking
When I quit drinking, yes—my body changed.
Clearer skin.
Better sleep.
More energy.
The real shift was that I started trusting myself again.
I could feel things fully—and not spiral.
I could sit in joy without waiting for it to disappear.
I stopped second-guessing every damn decision.
And all the habits I used to white-knuckle?
They became natural.
Because I wasn’t leaking energy trying to “balance” a habit that was working against me.
Ready for Real Change?
If you’ve read this far, maybe you’re realizing:
You’ve been doing all the things—but one part of you is still holding on.
Still numbing.
Still doubting.
Still hoping the next book or podcast will finally shift everything.
But what if the life you’re building is already working—you just haven’t let go of the one thing keeping you stuck? (also if you need the start of square one approach, I can help with that too)
This isn’t about more effort.
It’s about more capacity.
And I promise:
You don’t have to do this alone.
You’re Not Meant to Struggle Through This
I help women move through this exact journey.
To stop numbing.
To start living.
To expand their nervous system capacity and build a life that feels real, rooted, and deliberate.
Ready to Come Home to Yourself?
Whether alcohol is the monkey on your back or not…
If you’re constantly overwhelmed, looping in self-doubt, or numbing through anything—food, scrolling, people-pleasing, perfectionism, overworking—you’re not broken.
You’re dysregulated.
And that’s something we can heal.
This June, I’m launching a powerful breathwork series designed to help you gently rewire your nervous system, reclaim presence, and actually feel safe inside your body again.
This isn’t just breathwork for relaxation—
It’s for release.
For clarity.
For true inner shift and repatterning.
You don’t have to white-knuckle your healing anymore.
There’s another way—and it starts with one conscious breath at a time.
More information coming soon. If you want a sneak peak, please message me back and I’ll send you what Im working on.
Get ready to meet a version of you that feels grounded, whole, and fully alive.
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Breathe it in, be deliberate, and please be good to yourself.
Chelsea
